Friday, June 24th, 2011
Written for all of my friends on The Kitchen Table at The Eat Clean Diet Page.com:
A lesson I have learned recently is that not only must I eat clean to properly nourish my body and attain the weightloss and health goals I have set in stone for myself, but I MUST keep my friendships and surroundings "clean", as well. Through out my internet journey regarding weightloss and health, I have made alot of really great friends. What I have also encountered are people who claim they are working toward their goals, as well as giving me a ton of advice about my weightloss goals, successes, and failures.
I shared a great deal of personal information with with some of those people, and they returned their gratitude by sharing stories of their own with me. I have made alot of wonderful friends and connections with people who have the same issues, both in failures and success, as I do. That is what creates the bond between those of us who suffer from eating disorders, or what ever issue we are currently dealing with in our lives.
So imagine my dissappointment to find that one of the people to whom I had grown very close to and became very fond of in a "sister-ly" type of way over a two year period, suddenly pulled away from me and a few other close weightloss freinds, announcing that her husband did not want her talking to people who she did not know personally. Okay, fine, I can totally understand that. It's an internet friendship, one that I had grown very fond of, and looked forward to on a daily basis. I shared my life with this girl, and she had shared hers with myself as well as a group of our mutual "internet" friends. We relied on each other for daily support, wisdom, concern, care, and love. Yes, love. Sisterly love. That is the type of friendship we had formed. 2 years is a long time to communicate with someone on the internet.
So, imagine my DISSAPPOINTMENT when I found her on this web site, sharing her life story with thousands of people that she does not know personally. Imagine my surprise and dissappointment to find out that although she was giving weightloss and exercise advice to us, she really was not doing the exercise work herself that she was saying she was doing. She gave us all advice. She told us how successful she was. She stated every week almost that she was losing weight, and sometimes in large numbers. Then I read on this website that she has completely changed her profile statement.
Why would I post this on Tosca's page, you all are asking? BECAUSE THE FRIENDSHIP THAT WE ESTABLISHED WITH THIS WOMAN WAS BASED ON FRAUD. We were deceived by someone who was not really doing the work, and we were dumped by that person with the lie that her husband would not allow her to have internet friends if she did not know them personally.
My point with this post is mainly for this reason: BE CAREFULL WHO YOU CHOOSE AND SHARE PERSONAL INFORMATION WITH. Be careful who you take advice from. Be careful what advice we give other people. I plan on sticking to Tosca's Eat Clean program and the Kitchen Table for now on without taking advice to heart or too seriously, or sharing too much with others. I will continue to be supportive of everyone on here, and all of the friends I have made. I will not allow one bad egg to ruin all of my internet friendships, but I just wanted to let you all know that we could all stand to be a little more aware of who we are sharing our personal information with.
I was really hurt by the person who did that to my friends and I, because I had established such a close relationship with her. Just be careful and keep a watchful eye of phony and fake people. I need to remember that ulitmately, it is my responsibility to keep myself happy and stay on track and focused, and to praise and reward myself. I guess I became too dependant on that other person's views, opinions, and advice. And for that, I am upset with myself.
Well, moving forward, I do appreciate all of you here at the Kitchen Table. This forum has helped me out so much, and has also allowed me to share about myself, which is an important thing for all of us to be able to do. I thank Tosca a million times over for making this happend for all of us. Thank you, Tosca. You are fabulous. I want to be just like you when I grow up! =)
Kaptain Kymberly <3
luv ya girl!!!
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